New Year Tantrums

"We should always say what we think ~ not say what we think we should say."

Things I would like to say before the 12th month ends:

1st, my name is "Sherry" .. not "Sweet Sherry"! If I were sweet, I would have given everyone diabetes.

2nd, Just because I am friendly, it means that I am interested.

3rd, I am not friendly ~ just because I am "sometimes" nice, it means that I am friendly.

4th, Just because I turn down an invitation it means that I am playing "hard-to-get". It only means I am "not-into-you".

5th, Just because I turn down an invitation for the nth time, it means that I am a b----ch.. It only means I am TRULY "not interested" and I am SERIOUSLY "not-into-you".

6th, I didn't buy my BB to reply to everyone's bbm, texts, emails, calls. I have a jam-packed life. And I don't have to supply everyone with every minutiae of my life. I don't owe anyone explanation.

7th, Happiness can be found within yourself, not from other people ~ not from me!

8th, You shouldn't be nice to people you don't like. It will make them think otherwise. It's better stab someone in front than at his back.

9th, If you don't like this post, I don't care. I am not born in this world to please everyone.

10th, I truly believe that only fearless people have the guts to say something like this. So, I dare everyone to say what's on their minds before 2011 ends!

"I say what I mean, and I mean what I say."

As 2011 approaches its end, a new year offers another opportunities and chances!

Have an exciting NEW YEAR everyone! :)

How to be Screamingly Alive

 10. MUSIC
Listen to music. 80's 90's, modern hits, alternative, pop, rock, etc.


9. MOVIES
Watch deep/award-winning movies. But don't forget funny flicks. It is all about VARIETY.


8. BOOKS
Read myriad of books i.e. history, literature, fiction novels, etc. Once again, VARIETY.


7. PARTY
Once in awhile, Party, dance & sing like there is no tomorrow. Be crazy during crazy moments


6. FRIENDS
Hang out with positive friends; friends who can teach you, friends who inspire you, friends who make you see the world in different view, friends who will make you a better person in all aspects of your life - intellectual, emotionally, spiritually.


5. SLEEP
Sleep all you want. I could never reiterate enough the importance of sleep in our existence. Sleep makes you live longer, feel younger, decide & act better.


4. CAREER
You've got to love what you and do what you love. Be more than 100% professional at your work. Give your best. In the end, it is your gain. You gain knowledge. You gain experience. Whatever they say, it is ALWAYS your gain. EXPERIENCE is something that cannot be taken from you.


3. TRAVEL
Visit places you have never been. Be open to different cultures. Appreciate our differences. Marvel at what the world has to offer.


2. FAMILY
Treasure your family. Make them your top priority. Spend time with them. Do things with them. ENJOY being with them.


1. GOD
Live with God. Believe. Pray. Have faith. Because when you do, you will be a better/kinder/considerate/tolerant person.


MOMENTO MORTI, CARPE DIEM. Remember you are mortal, so seize the day.

On Strings of Bad Relationships

I must admit - I have always been a cerebral kind of person. I am a "thinker". I think and, most often than not, I say out loud (grasp!) my opinions/prejudices on matters even if they are unsolicited. I am just so damn opinionated (God, I hate myself for that) that I can't hold my tongue nor stop my fingers from typing blogs. I am not sure if having this kind of brain is a blessing or a curse. I just analyze things too much.

Anyways, that's me. Deal with it. If you can't, then don't read my blogs. (I am just saying.)

Fine. Let's start with relationships. Let me recount one observation I have with one acquaintance. I know so many other girls like her in this stupid world, and her actions would speak for all of them.

Few days ago, she posted in her status, "I finally found the one! I am so in love!"

..... I was like ... WTF!!!!???

This is not the first time that she is in love. In fact, for two years that I have known her, she must have been in love at least twenty times! She is being dumped every one (or two) month by one guy and jumps to the next guy who sees her nothing more than a s-- doll. And she "always" believes that this guy is the one - just to be...

used,
abused,
maltreated,
used as punching bag,
used as ATM machine.

I am not exaggerating here. She has been all these.

Fine, I haven't been totally truthful.
She is more than an acquaintance.

We had some close moments but as soon as I saw through her, I sprinted away as fast as I could.

There was one time when I was with her and her "baby" called ... To my surprise, she handed me the phone and asked me to talk to him. To my shock, this "great" guy told me something like this ... "How's this b----? You know I am only going out with her because I can f---k her anytime I want. She is b----. Blah, blah, blah!"

I accidentally dropped the phone from shock.

It was as if I was hit by a thunderbolt.

I was disgusted to hear those nasty words.

I didn't even ask!

I learned later on that they broke up, and she had another guy, then they broke up again and she had another one, and they broke up again, then she had another one, then they broke up, she had another one... and again (sigh) they broke up. Then she had another one, and (big, lo0o0o0o0o0o0ong sigh) he left her again...

Ad infinitum.

Jesus Christ! Doesn't she get it? Doesn't she get tired?

Can't this series of bad relationships penetrate that thick skull of hers?

What's more shocking is she always, always says, “I found the one!"

How many The One's she is supposed to find before she finally gets it? "The One" can't be found by jumping from one relationship to the next (actually, the term relationship is too decent - "affair" would be more appropriate).

Well, it is not really my business.

But I have this irksome habit of minding other people's business. ;) Especially something like this.

I was like ... "Let it go, Sherry..."
There are some things you cannot change.
Especially damaged ones like this.

So like an obedient kid, I close my eyes, and cover my ears, and just wish that I see and hear no more of her and her kind.
I just shake my head and whisper to myself (and to my bloggers), "Tsk. Pathetic."

As for me, I yell to the whole, wide world: "Single & Proud!"

I don't need a man to make me happy.
And I feel sorry for those who can't even stand being without a man for months.

There is more to life than having a string of bad/abusive/short-lived affairs. I think that girls these days should value themselves more. How can they expect men to value them if they don't value themselves?

In the movie "What's Your Number?" ...It was said that decent men care how many guys girls have slept with.

And the higher "number" a girl has, the lesser chance she has of finding "The One" ...

For each bad relationship is one point minus to a woman's self-worth.
For she, herself, will be okay with the "casual/no strings attached" kind of thing.
Her perception of herself will be less: less self-respect, less self-value, less self-worth.

Now, that's the real tragedy.